Wednesday, January 29, 2014

37 life lessons so far

Top 37 Life Lessons So Far...

  1. Happiness comes from within. We spend way too much of our lives looking for outside validation and approval that eludes us. Turns out, it's been an inside job all along. Go inward.
  2. Be grateful for everything. The good, the bad, the ugly. Our entire life is a precious gift. The pleasure, the pain -- it's all part of our path.
  3. Subtle shifts in perception will transform your entire life. When feeling fearful, angry, hurt, simply choose to see a situation differently.
  4. In being true to yourself, you can't possibly make everybody else happy. Still, it's better to risk being disliked for living your truth than to be loved for what you are pretending to be.
  5. The world is our mirror. What we love in others is a reflection of what we love about ourselves. What upsets us about others is a strong indication of what we need to look at more closely within ourselves.
  6. Everybody comes into our life for a reason. It is up to us to be open to the lesson they are meant to teach. The more someone rubs us the wrong way, the greater the lesson. Take notes.
  7. Trust. In troubled times, just know that the Universe has your back and everything is going to be alright. If you're not there yet, trust in hindsight you will understand. Your higher good is being supported, always.
  8. Never take things personally. What others do is a reflection of what's going on in their own life and probably has little or nothing to do with you.
  9. A walk in nature cures a lot. Taking in some fresh air and the beautiful landscape of this earth is amazingly head-clearing, grounding, and mood-lifting. Bonus: You can learn a whole lot about life in your observation of the awesomeness which is nature.
  10. Hurt people hurt people. Love them anyway. Although, it's totally okay to love them from a distance.
  11. You have to feel it to heal it. Bring your fears and weaknesses front and center and shine a blazing spotlight on them because the only way out is through. The hurt of facing the truth is SO worth it in the long run, I swear.
  12. Perfectionism is an illusion. A painful one at that. Ease up. Strive for excellence, sure, but allow yourself room to make mistakes and permission to be happy regardless of outcome.
  13. Take the blinders off. Don't become so laser-focused on your own goals and desires that you miss out on the beauty in life and the people around you. The world is stunningly beautiful when you walk around with eyes wide open.
  14. Celebrate the journey. It's not all about the destination. Savor all of your successes, even the small ones.
  15. Forgiveness is not so much about the other person. It's about you and for you so that you can gain the peace and freedom you deserve. Forgive quickly and often.
  16. We are all incredibly intuitive. When we learn to become still and listen, we can tap into some pretty amazing primal wisdom. Listen to the quiet whisper of your heart. It knows the way.
  17. Let your soul shine! Be authentic. There is nobody else on this earth just like you. Step into your truth wholeheartedly and live and breathe your purpose.
  18. We are powerful creators. Seriously, bad-asses. With intention, focus, and persistence -- anything is possible. Know this.
  19. I am full of light. You are full of light. We are all full of light. Some cast shadows on their own brightness. Be a beacon of light to others and show them the way.
  20. Don't take life too seriously! Nobody gets out alive anyway. Smile. Be goofy. Take chances. Have fun.
  21. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. And, love and support them right back! Life is too short for anything less.
  22. Learn the delicate dance. Have big beautiful dreams and vision. Chase them with much passion. But, also hold on to them all ever so lightly. Be flexible and willing to flow as life comes at you.
  23. Giving is the secret to receiving. Share your wisdom, your love, your talents. Share freely and be amazed at how much beauty in life flows back to you.
  24. On that note, be careful not to give too much. If you empty out your own cup completely, you will have nothing left to give. Balance is key.
  25. Say "YES!" to everything that lights you up. Say "no", unapologetically, to anything that doesn't excite you or you don't have the bandwidth for. Time is one of our most precious resources that we can never get back. Manage it wisely.
  26. Sometimes we outgrow friendships. It doesn't mean they're bad or you're bad. It just means you're on different paths. Hold them in your heart, but when they start to hurt or hold you back, it's time to give space or let go.
  27. Fear is often a very good indicator of what we really want and need in our life. Let it be your compass and enjoy the exciting adventure it leads you on.
  28. Overcoming your fears is one of the most empowering things you can ever do for yourself. You'll prove to yourself you can truly accomplish anything! Major self-confidence booster.
  29. Our bodies are our vehicle to our dreams. Treat them with love and fuel them with the best health to feel vibrant and energized. But, never obsess over image. Looks are subjective and will fade in time, anyway. Feeling good, healthy, and comfortable in our own skin is what matters most.
  30. Let those that you love know it often and enthusiastically. You can never say it or show it too much. Your time, total presence, love, and genuine concern for their wellness is the greatest gift of all.
  31. The present moment is where it's at. It's the only one promised to any of us. Learn from your past & enjoy the beautiful memories, but don't cling or let them haunt you. And, dream big and be excited about the future, but don't become obsessed. Love this moment, always.
  32. Life is full of highs and lows. We need them both to grow to our fullest potential. Just hang on tight and enjoy the ride.
  33. We are all connected as one human family. Nobody is better or worse than anyone else -- just at different stages of our journeys and dealing with life the best way we know how. Recognize that the other person is you.
  34. Practice daily gratitude for all the blessings in your life, large and small. Not only is this a high vibe practice that feels amazing, in practicing regularly you are creating space for even more abundance -- of joy, love, health, and prosperity.
  35. We are not the center of the universe, although our ego can make us feel that way at times. Step outside of that way of thinking and see the world and other people's perspective in a whole new beautiful light.
  36. The world needs more love, light, and laughter. Go be love.
  37. You are the guru. For much of our lives, we have been told what do, how to think, what looks good, what "success" is. You don't have to buy into any of it. Feel free to peel back the layers. Think for yourself. Break the mold. When you stop doing what everybody else wants you to do and start following your own intuition, you will be ridiculously happy.
In looking back at your own life, realize that every high and low is all part of your amazing story. Own it! Take cues and guidance from the universe and you will continue to go on an incredible ride as you fully step into your truth and power.
Age is just a number, but the higher it gets, the more wisdom and life experience we've amassed. You are never going to be younger than you are in this present moment again. So embrace it, love it, and enjoy it fully!
Here's to many more beautiful years of seeking-truth, questioning all that does not sit right, and making your greatest impact in the world! I look forward to adding more lessons as life continues to give me the opportunity to learn, grow, transform, share and expand. Hope you will too.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

~The Legacy of a Mother~

  One day I set out to find the meaning of what a true mother is.  I searched in books and even looked at famous mothers that the world held in such high regard, but no matter where I searched, I could not find what I was looking for. Then I realized, I was searching in all the wrong places. My answer could only come from the One who created mothers. So I got on my knees and asked the Lord to show me what a true mother really is.  I was surprised by His reply, “My child, I have already shown you more times than can be numbered, and one you know all too well by now.”  I was puzzled at His reply and so asked the Lord to show me again. He smiled saying "If you’ll stop searching, you’ll find what you are searching for has always been a part of your life.”  Then one day I found myself looking at my reflection in a mirror and suddenly the vision of my own mother appeared before me.  As I saw this vision of her, it seemed like a thousand memories played back in the reflection.  I saw countless times she knelt by her bed in prayer for her children, refusing to get up off her knees until she knew she had reached heaven on their behalf. I saw the years go by of struggling to get four young girls dressed and ready for church every Sunday morning, all while trying to prepare for an afternoon dinner, leaving only a few minutes to get ready herself. I saw countless hours of cooking, cleaning and decorating to make many an old house feel like a new home to us. Amazingly enough they always did.  I saw her standing her ground as she raised four independent daughters who refused to believe that she was right about anything.  It seemed to take everything out of her when she fought so hard to keep us from making mistakes. Little did we know then, that it was only because she loved us so much, that she couldn't bare to see us get hurt, and not because she was trying to ruin our lives. I saw the many times she sat with a Bible in her lap trying to teach us what it meant to be godly young women. I’m quite sure she felt that everything she said was going in one ear and out the other. Little did she realize that we were listening and that she was laying a strong foundation in our lives that to this day would keep us coming back to the Lord, no matter how many times we strayed away. 
   I saw the joy she got out of watching us grow up, and just having us all together laughing, singing and all the other memorable things our family did.  All the family vacations to the mountains or the beach that she loved sharing with her family, and of course there was never a dull moment to talk about. It was interesting to see that she was the happiest, when she had her children all around her. That was where she found her greatest role in life was to be our mom, and that was enough for her.  I began to see a bit of sadness in her eyes as it was time for my two older sisters to leave home, and the fear that would grip her heart that they would no longer need her as much or wondering who would keep them from getting hurt or making wrong choices.  She slowly began to take on the toughest challenge in mother’s life in letting her children go. After finally realizing God was able to take care of them, she happily found that they still needed her just as much and that her place in their lives as “mom” was still in tact.  Then came time for my other sister to leave and although the sadness was still there, she was a little stronger this time in letting her go.  She found comfort in knowing that although three of her girls were living away from home, the road between them was never too far for her to jump in the car at a moments notice to go see them if she got to missing them or needed anything in her power to give to them. She would say, “That’s just what a momma does for her kids”.  Then in the reflection, I saw myself as a teenage girl trying to find my place in the world and my mom walking beside me trying to encourage me along the way. I can still hear her telling me that God had His hand on my life, and that the loneliness I was going through was to prepare me for something He had in store for my life down the road. I saw her sitting beside me on my bed wiping away the tears from my heart being broken over boys that came into my life that God would not let me date, or the struggles every young girl has just trying to fit in a world where God never meant for me to. No one understood me better than her. I saw the countless mornings that we would share a devotional time of reading our favorite scriptures and then cry together on our knees in prayer over struggles we were both going through. As I watched these images flash across my mirror, I realized that it was during that time in my life she became more than just my mom, but my best friend as well.  The day finally came when it was my turn to leave home, and I can already see that same familiar sadness fill her eyes again as her last child was leaving home.  She finds comfort in knowing that I’m only a few minutes drive away and that she can reach me in no time when I needed her. 
I saw for the first time the loneliness in the reflection on her face.  How hard it must have been for her to look around at an empty nest after devoting 30 years of her life to being a mother to four girls. If only she could have just looked ahead and saw how much more we all would need her help and strength to see us through all the many changes the seasons of our lives would bring. She was there to shed her tears of love as she watched each of us marry the young men she prayed for all of our lives. I can see her silently praying each time that God would take care of her little girl, and give her a godly home like the one we have always known.  She was there to anxiously walk the floor as we each gave birth to our children. Oh the joy on her face each time she got to hold each grandbaby for the first time. I think it was then when she realized that her role as mom would never change, but that we needed her now in new ways than before. She gained a lot of new titles such as our personal on call cookbook, our 24 hr doctor, our spiritual counselor, a last minute babysitter, and our personal helper when we needed help with any task. It seemed to give her a special joy just to be needed by her children. There was never a time when any of us girls needed her that she wasn’t there, no matter how many miles she had to drive, or how ill she felt herself, she was there.  I saw the thousands of miles she drove to see me when I lived away in Virginia, just because I was homesick and feeling lonely while my husband worked long hours into the night. She was so often my little taste of home that got me through a tough 3 years of living away. She helped me pass the time with home cooked meals, shopping trips to our favorite stores, and a friend to talk to.  She was such a big part of my life in there as she always has been, but it seemed I needed her more when I was away than ever before. She was there to share my  first pregnancy with me, and the excitement the day we found out I was having a boy.  I can see the look of fear on her face the day I went into labor and her standing helplessly as she silently worries and prays. It seems to be the only thing she can do while 2 doors separate her from me.  Then joy filled her heart again as she was able to breathe a sigh of relief as she carried her new grandson in her arms down the hallway to the nursery. The day finally came when I moved back close to home, and of course mom was there to help bring me home. It’s amazing to me that no matter how far away or how close I am, I never cease to need her. I remember the day I found out that I was expecting twins…and pouring out my fears on her shoulders of the unfamiliar road ahead. She just smiled and reminded me that God would be with me every step of the way and so would she. As the years quickly pass, I see her body growing frail and her eyes getting weary…but her love for us remains unchanged.

   I suddenly felt silly for trying to find a meaning of someone I’ve known and loved for as long as I have lived. As the Lord had said, The answer has always been a part of my life. She is not just a mom, but a true mother in every sense of the word. Any woman can be a mom, but it takes a lot more to be a true mother.  A mother is someone who gives her very last dime if she even thought her children were in need. She is the tower of strength for them, even when she feels tired or weak. She is their greatest prayer warrior to give them spiritual strength to withstand life’s battles.  She is the foundation builder of her children’s godly character. She sets the examples of a true homemaker, a godly woman, a faithful wife, and a loving mother. Most of her life is about sacrifice receiving very little in return. It’s enough for her just to see her children happy and safe in God’s perfect will. There’s never an hour too late or a mile too long for her to reach one of her children that needed her.
 As I see her reflection in the mirror looking back at me, I see the shining example of what God meant all mothers to be.  I am honored and blessed to have her as my mother, and I only hope to do her justice as I follow her as a mother in her footsteps behind her.

(Proverbs 31:10)  Who can find a virtuous women? For her price is far above rubies. (vs. 31)  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

To my dear mom,
You have set for me the greatest example of a true mother, and I am truly blessed that God gave you to me. He must’ve known that I would need one of His very best to be my mom. I love you with all my heart, and I thank you for everything you do. If I had but one wish, it would be that you would someday know your true worth.

Written with love,

 ~In memory of my mom and my best friend~

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

My family

I am truly blessed to have my family in my life and couldn't imagine life without them. We are not a perfect family and by no means normal...but we all love each other dearly and have seen each other through a lot of life's ups and downs. We've shared about a million memories, laughs, arguments and tears together over the past 37 years. I love them more than words could ever say..and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.

Monday, January 7, 2013

A New Year

Happy, how did that get here so fast? It's a new year and although I'm not one for resolutions...I am making 4 resolutions as I go into this new year. One is to get back to my blog that has been neglected a great deal this past year for failure of my own to find a place to put it. Which leads me to resolution number two, to find a better way to organize and spend my time. I have to admit, I've allow too many days and hours to get away from me that I just didn't accomplish what I wanted to. Being a wife and  mother to 3 kids has a bit to do with it...but if I'm completely honest, I know that I can do a lot better and will ultimately find a way to do what I truly want to do. So I am asking God to help me have a better perspective on my time and to have a better "want to". Resolution number 3 involves the most common one you hear from pretty much everyone and that is to get back to a work out and better eating routine...not only for myself ...but also for my family. I know that it truly begins with me and the choices I make that will impact all of us being our healthiest and with a lot of prayer and a little motivation I know we can get there.  My 4th and most important resolution of all is my walk with the Lord. My desire is to get back to a closer intimate walk with Him that I once knew before letting so much of life steal away my time, attention, and heart. I love my Lord dearly ...spend time in his word, but it happens so gradually that you just don't realize how far you have slowly drifted away until one day you stop to look up to realize how great a distance has come between you and that place in His presence you never imagine ever leaving. All I know to do is lay all these things at His feet and  try to open all the places in my heart I tend to shut off...and let go of all I struggle to hold onto and allow God to give me the freedom and the victory in each and every area of my life that I choose to rest at His feet.

~The Little Moments~

There comes a time in our lives as we reflect back over the journey from which we have already come…that we must choose to free ourselves and no longer hold onto all those moments in our past that we so desperately wish we could change. Because you see…in letting go and releasing every moment ..every memory…into our Lord’s hands…He gives us a new perception and allows us to look back to find the countless little moments hidden in between…that we somehow missed along the way. A little smile out of nowhere just to brighten our day…an unexpected hug when we needed it the most or an “I love you” just to remind us someone really does care. It’s those little moments that we forget to keep with us and hold onto...although they quickly come and go…are what keeps us going through the good days and the bad…and what shape us into who we are truly meant to be. Life and all its moments and the people we share them with…rarely measure up to the expectations we create them to be in our minds or in our dreams from the storybooks we read when we were little. But we have to remember that we all mess up and as well as succeed…we all love and hurt the exact same way.  True love.. is loving someone when they deserve it the least. We can’t control how others love us…only how we love them. So let’s hold onto to the good in each other and the great moments we each share together. I believe true happiness is found… not in holding onto the moments in our life that no longer matter but in holding onto the moments and people that do. 

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Women of God

~Except For Grace~

I Choose Love…No occasion justifies hatred; no injustice warrants bitterness. I choose love. Today I will love God and what God loves. I Choose Joy… I will invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse the temptation to be cynical. I will refuse to see people as anything less than human beings, created by God. I will refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God. I Choose Peace… I will live forgiven. I will forgive so I may live. I Choose Patience… I will overlook the inconveniences of the world. Instead of cursing the one who takes my place, I’ll invite him to do so, Rather complain that the wait is to long, I will thank God for a moment to pray. Instead of clenching my fist at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage. I Choose Kindness… I will be kind to the poor, for they are alone. Kind to the rich, for they are afraid. And kind to the unkind, for that is how God has treated me. I Choose Goodness… I will go without a dollar before I take a dishonest one. I will be overlooked before I will boast. I will confess before I accuse. I choose goodness I Choose Faithfulness… Today I will keep my promises. My debtors will not regret their trust. My friends will not question my word. And my family will not question my love. I Choose Gentleness… Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raise my voice may it only be in praise. If I clench my fist, may it only be in prayer. If I make a demand, may it be only of myself. I Choose Self-Control… I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I choose self-control. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. To these I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek His grace. And then when this day is done I will place my head on my pillow and rest.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Getting Up Again

“…though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again…” Proverbs 24:16

I’ve always admired people who aren’t afraid to fail. You know the ones who don’t even consider defeat when they blow it; people who see a personal setback as just another goal to conquer.

I’m not always so courageous. In fact, I can be really hard on myself when I fail, and it doesn’t even have to be a biggie. You see, I have what I call a “meanie in me” who replays my mistakes over and over, reminding me of how badly I’ve disappointed someone, or how impatient I was with my husband, or how harsh I was with my kids, or all sorts of ways that I fell short that day.

But the greatest defeat comes when I allow a mistake, a bad decision, sin, or a broken relationship to convince me that I might as well give up. Perhaps you have also allowed failure to knock you down, tie you up with the ropes of regret and hold you hostage like I have.

Today’s key verse, Proverbs 24:16, has helped me release the regret, guilt, fear and shame that have weighed me down and held me back. Take a minute to read it now and notice how it says the righteous will fall. That is right. Even those of us who have received the gift of Christ’s righteousness and redemption will fall down. But we were never intended to stay down.

Instead of giving up Jesus empowers us to get up again.

In getting up, we can apologize and ask for forgiveness. In getting up, we can choose to try again with our kids, in our jobs, in our ministries, in our marriages, and in all of our mistakes. Because we trust that although we fall, God will help us up.

When we get up again failure can actually help us become the confident women God created us to be because it makes us stronger and better — when we go to God for help. Failure can stretch us to do more than we think we can and push us to try other methods of doing things when one way doesn’t work.

Yes, failure can be hurtful but it can also be beneficial. Failure produces wisdom when we ask for it and maturity when we learn from it.

The truth is, following Jesus is not about avoiding failures and being perfect. It’s about accepting our weaknesses and becoming more dependent on God’s perfect love and power at work in us. So the next time you fail to be the woman He calls you to be, or the woman you expect yourself to be, ask God to remind you of this truth.

We will sometimes fail to be who we want to be but we will get closer to who we are meant to be every time we fall and then choose to take God’s hand so we can get up again!

Lord, I’m so thankful for Your grace that reminds me there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Because my steps are established by You, Lord, I will believe that You delight in me even when I fail or fall. Today, I want to take Your hand and trust Your heart as You pull me back up again and use my failures to help me become the confident woman You created me to be. In Jesus’ Name, amen.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

~Sometimes I feel overlook~

"After removing Saul, he made David their king. He testified concerning him: 'I have found David son of Jesse a man after my own heart, he will do everything I want him to do." Acts 13:22

I'm sorry. I try not to complain very often. I do know that I am incredibly blessed to have a grocery store down the street and a washer and dryer to use when doing laundry. But sometimes I wake up on Monday mornings a little grumpy. Time to do it all again. I'll go buy food that gets eaten. I'll wash clothes that get dirty again. I'll sweep floors that just an hour later will be littered with crumbs.

Is there more to all this than just doing the tasks of everyday life?

Before I jumped into the normal routine this morning, I sat with Jesus. And this is what I found... some big truths by taking a little glance at David's life. Despite how other's saw him, his own propensity to sin, and his lack of position in his own family, David had the sweet reassurance of God and that was enough.

Overlooked by everyone else. Handpicked by God.

To his older brothers, he was a pest. To his father Jesse, he was just the youngest son. To on-lookers, he was just a shepherd boy. But to God, he was the one destined to be king. And not just any king. His lineage was the one from whom Jesus would come.

Overlooked by everyone else. Handpicked by God.

Even how he was anointed to be the future king is such a telling story. In 1 Samuel 16, God tells Samuel that He has rejected Saul as king and chosen one of Jesse's sons to be the replacement. Think of the list of qualifications that must have run through Samuel's head as he pondered which of Jesse's sons would be qualified for such a position: tall, smart, articulate, brave, groomed, well mannered, regal, a natural born leader. "But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his outward appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. (meaning Saul who had these qualities.) The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (vs 7).

Overlooked by everyone else. Handpicked by God.

Next Samuel has Jesse line all of his sons up before him. All of them were to be looked at. Yet Jesse doesn't call David in from tending sheep. Was this an oversight? An assumption? A judgment call? A necessity? A deliberate choice?

Overlooked by everyone else. Handpicked by God.

Samuel passes on each of Jesse's sons and then asks, "Are these all the sons you have?"

I imagine Jesse with a quizzical expression replying, "There is still the youngest but he is tending sheep." Surely one who spends his time taking care of animals is not the one to take care of a nation.

Overlooked by everyone else. Handpicked by God.

As soon as Samuel saw him, he knew he was the one. David was anointed to become king. But he was not immediately ushered to the throne. It was years before David would be recognized by the world. So, where did he go after being anointed as king? To a refining school? A government academy? Military training? Nope.

He went back out into the fields and continued to shepherd his flock. A king doing lowly tasks. A king whose character was being refined in the fields of everyday life to prepare him for his calling.

How like us. In the midst of smelly laundry, dirty dishes, snotty noses, misplaced keys, overdue library books, bills, and that birthday gift that still needs to be mailed to grandma - there is training there. There is character building. There is attitude shaping. There is soul defining. There is heart grounding. All which must take place for us to become what God intends.
Ever feel overlooked by the world? Take heart sister - we are handpic ked by God.

I am not just doing tasks. I am building a legacy. I am shaping God's kingdom. I am in the process of not only discovering my calling but that of my family as well. And I don't know about you, but it sure does make me look at my everyday tasks, even the smelly laundry in a whole different light.

Dear Lord, thank You that even when I feel overlooked, I can rest in the fact that I am handpicked by You. Help me to live my life for an audience of One. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

~Am I ok?~

Am I okay?”  Oh how I’ve asked this question.  Oh, how I find myself asking it still.  It really is quite the universal question.  This is my prayer for us as we question if we’re okay, “I pray that the eyes of our heart may be enlightened in order that we may know the hope to which He’s called us.”
We are loved.  We are treasured.  We are His.  We have been called to rest in this hope. 
There’s something universal in all women that unites us, maybe like nothing else: It's a need we all have…to know that we’re o.k.
Maybe you need to know this, today. Maybe you need someone to understand you or relate to your pain. Maybe you need to feel normal, like you aren’t the only one in the world that struggles with being a wife, mom, friend, or believer. Maybe you need what all women need – the feeling of being seen, heard and valued. If so, you have company. We all feel like that, sometimes.
Above everyone else, Jesus promises us the strength of His everlasting empathy, support and love.
Psalm 147:5 says, “Great is our Lord and mighty in power; his understanding has no limit.” This verse ministers to me, as it reminds me that Jesus is vast enough to meet our need to be o.k., no matter what our situation.
Take comfort in His love, my friend. Lean back into His strong arms of understanding. Rest well, for you are o.k.